Personally, and since this is my column, I will go on the record as saying Willow is a bisexual. No muss, no fuss and certainly not up for argument because that is just plain, well, pointless. Bisexual, she is, based on the fact that she has had love relationships with men as well as women. This is not just based on the sexual act. If you think about it, Willow has had more interest in her than Buffy. If one says she is a lesbian, then she would have only had feelings for the same sex and relations with them. Most of society has some bisexual tendencies; it has been studied and researched often. Very small percentage is totally gay or totally straight, even though there is some tendencies do not mean that it would be acted upon. Don’t worry, I am not labeling all of us, I am just explaining what I know. Hey, I am the one with a totally nonsexual girl crush on Amy Acker and a huge lust/love crush on Alexis Denisof.

Before someone says this, yes I am aware of the whole Willow quote, “Hello! Gay now!” I deem that on the same level, as the writers wouldn’t say “Hello Bi now!” to me that sound too much like ‘bye now’. What is the difference? It doesn’t take away from Willow’s special-ness or her whole relationship with Tara. In fact, Willow and Tara has argued over the idea that Willow might be just experimenting and not committed to this, all this was Willow projecting the ideas onto Tara. 

When I think about Willow, I see her past relationships not based on gender, but on the person him or herself. Just look at a few: Xander, Oz and Tara. They were all different in their own ways, but one thing carried through. They were all caring, warm and loving individuals. I can’t say the same for Kennedy; she came across a bit forced for me. I think that Willow falls in love with the person and not based on their gender. To me, this makes more sense and not to mention, more open and loving. She is open and accepting as what I pictured a witch should be.

It should not matter what label she is saddled with: bi, straight, lesbian. Am I missing something vital? Is there some reason out there that people should be categorically labeled and separated into giant groups? If she isn’t labeled a lesbian, does she not get the good seat in the cafeteria?

Ok, so here is my other thing, I see Tara as a Lesbian. She, as far as I know, has only been with Willow. It does not make it wrong for Tara and Willow to be together. Yes, we have one that has been with men before and one that has not, but it does not mean that they cannot overcome their labels and be together… Wait, they did and they were in love. See, labels should not hold the power that we give them.

In fact, I am starting to grow tired of labels. Can we not just all be seen for who we are and what we do instead of one or two words that categorically place us into a larger group? Where is the special ness in that? There isn’t. For example, let’s look at me: Hillbilly, Cracker, Southern Belle, Female, White, Middle-Age, Red-Head, Straight, Liberal, Tall, Skinny, Breast Challenged, Masters Graduate and Social Worker. I look at that list and think where is the uniqueness that is me? All the labels have taken dominance over what collectively makes up who I am. You are looking at the label and not at the actual person. Would you want to be known as your labels and that is it? The only label you can use with me is “self-righteous bitch” as Cordelia calls it so perfectly.

Hey, you all may want to use labels and wear them with pride, I say go for it. If that is what you want then I am behind you. However, I do ask this. **Cue Dr. Phil music** Take a look at yourself. See what it means to you to search for something to pin on yourself. Break free of the labels! Break free of the stereotypes associated with these labels! Break free of the cliques that regulate you to want to wear the label! Be your own person. (And no more Dr. Phil for me, as we see what happens when I watch it.)

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